Guest Post: Stephen in his own Words

Last week, Janelle suggested that Stephen write a guest post. Much to my surprise, he was all over that idea. In fact, he wrote this post that very same day. (I woke up from a sugar coma nap to find what he wrote sitting on the computer.) Without further ado, here’s my husband in his own words:

As it so happens, there have been a few requests that I do a guest post on my wife’s blog. So here it is, the long awaited, much anticipated, highly commercialized and even less supervised version of me. As it is widely known throughout the internets I, Me, Stephen, am/is the quiet, reserved, army husband to your dear main blogger ArmyAmy. I thought I’d dedicate this post to letting you in on a little bit about my tour but mostly about my wife. I figure these will be decent subjects because A) I know that she posted a lot about my deployment from her view point 2) you all read those entries and 3-Z) She talks about her and her life a lot so it goes to reason that most of you find that interesting so this should set some of the same kind of appeal.

Lets dive right into my deployment. Now, due to OPSEC I cannot/will not/could not/would not disclose any real personal or secret information that could not be got publicly. Now, that said, my deployment started at the end of July nearing August. As I’m sure most first time deployers feel, it was a mix of emotions, filled with crappy feelings of anxiety, excitement, nervousness, adventure, and tons of others. Mainly though, for about the first half I was extremely homesick because I wasn’t working in the capacity of what I had trained up for. I am an infantry man. So naturally, I like doing all the dirty mischievous vicious deeds that most of you would never dream of. What I was doing was more comparable to an office job back home. Me no likey. However, my extreme success in this position and continuous nagging no doubt, afforded me the opportunity to join those of my own kind. I left the paper hanging job and started up my combat patrols around early December. Little did I know I was in for a rough winter. Through frozen feet and icicle nostrils we emerged upon the rainy season and then the dry season of our province. By tours end I had worked with the highs and lows, the good and the bad, the young and the old. I’ve come out of it older(the army tends to age you) and wiser(for the most part). The one thing that literally kept me focused, besides my battle buddies, was the picture at my desk, then my helmet, and finally my turret: the picture of my beloved wife Amy.

Now, Amy is a complicated subject for me. There is no way for me to deliver to you in one simple post how much she means to me. No way to describe how strong and brave and independent she was while I was away. She thrived well beyond what I had imagined and came through this deployment just as much a veteran as I did. Deployment can be a relationships worst nightmare. A phone call here or there, a late night 4 min skype session, a quick facebook message is not nearly what you would hope for in a years time in the spectrum of communication. Looking back I don’t know how she did it. I used to panic and pace around the house frantically when Amy would just go out with her mom to dinner and she wasn’t home on time. I always worried that the worst would happen and that’s just right here at home; not Afghanistan. Amy faced incredible challenges while I was gone, challenges that she had to face alone for the most part. I am glad that she is near-ish to family and friends who could try to help her cope, but anyone who’s been in the deployed bracket knows this really is no consolation at the end of the day.

For the 11 months that we were apart my little wifey not only sustained herself but my hopes and fears as well. She carried the burden of two people on her own shoulders every day with a smile on her face. I have never been so proud of anyone as her. She is my guiding light, my cuddle buddy, my professional ocular precipitation remover, best friend, and the most supportive and motivational person I have ever met.

I think this is a good ending point for my little insert. I hope someone enjoyed reading this even though it is no where near the quality of the writer next to me. Thank you all for reading my wife’s work, it means a lot to her and the comments are always welcomed.  Raider1Golf OUT.

PS: I have a personal relationship/personality associated with almost everyone who regularly comments on Amy’s blog….I know you’re out there J .

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36 thoughts on “Guest Post: Stephen in his own Words

  1. Yesssssss Stephen (and Amy) thank you!!!! My weekend totally sucked but I’m so happy to read this on my Monday morning :)

    Stephen, us blog readers sometimes miss getting parts of your personality – except through little snippets in your videos – so I think it’s so great that you wrote this. With all the crap in the world, it’s really nice to see that both of you just ooooooze love, respect, pride, and admiration for each other.

    Coolest people everrrrr.

  2. Stephen, who knew you were so eloquent?! I had big ugly tears pouring down my face after just a couple of sentences. You and Amy are so blessed to have each other; you are both such wonderful people, and i hope with all my heart that life brings you all the goodness you two deserve!

  3. Thank you Stephen (and Amy!!) for your service. Seriously, thank you! And I LOVE that you wrote a post for all of us! Y’all sound so cute together – the way you described her was just so, so sweet. I really hope y’all are able to live together (for more than a few weeks) soon!

  4. What a sweet post, Stephen!! We are so glad that you and Amy are reunited for at least now! Thank you so much for your service!

  5. 1st- she is one tough cookie!

    2nd-You two are adorable…and we miss you already. There’s no way to express how much we enjoyed seeing you!! It was nice to have the gang together again! :)

    Last but not least- We love you both mucho!!

    • As soon as we got in the car to leave y’all’s place, Stephen turned to me and said, “I miss them already!” We can just never get enough time with you guys!*

  6. What an awesome post, Stephen! You and Amy are pretty much the sweetest couple ever. It’s nice to see when two people appreciate and cherish each other as much as you two do. Enjoy the rest of your R&R and I look forward to more guest posts in the future! :D

    • Deployment has provided both of us with a lot of perspective. I think it’s easy for people to lose what’s important when they are together all the time. We have definitely learned to appreciate each other more over the last year.*

  7. This was so sweet. You two are are both awesome! Thanks for the post, Stephen. :)

  8. Love that you were willing to do this! “She talks about her and her life a lot so it goes to reason that most of you find that interesting so this should set some of the same kind of appeal”- hahaha! We’re blog readers… we’re nosy!

  9. Stephen, I loved reading this.

    Amy, thank you for sharing a little bit of Stephen with us!

  10. Stephen, this was really beutifully written. I know the deployment was really hard on both of you but it easy to see why you weathered the storm when I read how supportive you are of one another. You made me cry!

  11. Thank you for your words. I find it amazing that your wife is such a strong woman. I have a cousin married to a marine and they have endured two deployments. She was totally alone with no family around for both of them. I have always said that military wives are some of the strongest women, it is so wonderful to her the spouse understand/support/acknowledge what they go through. You both are truly blessed to have each other, here is to many wonderful years of happiness ahead to you two :)

    • Thank you for your kind words, Helen. Being totally alone for deployment sounds miserable. I was lucky enough to have my family nearby. I would not have stood so strong without them.*

  12. You two are great! Thanks for the guest post Stephen! Deployments aren’t easy and you two really wtried hard to make it work. From a long time military wife, thank you for your service.

  13. I vote for encore Stephen posts in the future (not that your posts aren’t great too, Amy)!

  14. I want to say thank you for three things: 1) for your service in keeping us safe here at home; 2) for giving us a little bit of insight into what it is really like over there in the desert; and finally 3) for being an example of loving and supportive partners. It seems like I rarely see that and it gives me hope that someday I might find just such a partner. So thank you.

    • Thank you! I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to hear people thank my husband for his service. It’s so easy to feel forgotten and lost in the shuffle. It’s nice to know that his sacrifice is appreciated.*

  15. I’m just catching up after a long weekend/week. What a sweet post. That would totally bring me to tears if my hubs wrote that to me. <3 <3

  16. What an awesome post! I think you perfectly summed up what all of us Army wives want to hear our husbands say at the end of a deployment:) My husband’s a Kiowa pilot on his third (ugh.) deployment, and one thing I try to always work toward is to not let this year be a waste of my life. I know some women who mope and cry the entire deployment (and post EVERY news story that comes up on fb, arghh super pet peeve!)… and I think to myself that if I fall into that trap, that’s an entire year of my life gone. No way! We’ve gotta stay strong for you all, and for ourselves. Amy is an awesome inspiration for that and I’ve loved following her journey!!

    • Props to you on staying strong through 3 deployments. I love your attitude! I really tried to make the most of the time that my husband was away, but as you know, it’s hard. We do have to stay strong. Thanks for your support! Solidarity, sister!*

  17. Oh my gosh… I am literally wiping tears away as I am typing this! After hearing so much about you through Amy’s posts, it is simply awesome to be able to hear some of your thoughts and perspectives directly. Both of you are such incredibly strong, inspirational, and amazing people and you are so, so blessed to have each other. I can’t wait for more guest posts in the future! And THANK YOU SO MUCH for all that you do for our country. If I got to meet you in person, I would give you the standing ovation that you so richly deserve.

    Enjoy your R&R to the ABSOLUTE FULLEST!!!

    • You are so sweet Emily! I know that I definitely don’t feel strong or inspirational or amazing, but it’s great to hear it from other people. Maybe it will start to sink in and I’ll believe it. Anyway, thank you for all your support! It means a lot to me!*

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