Back in May, A Practical Wedding had an open thread discussion called “How To Be In Love.” The idea was to disspell the myth of the Grand Romantic Gesture, and talk about what romance really looks like in real relationships really for real. I fell deep into the rabbit hole of comments. It ranged from “traditionally” romantic date nights, bringing the other person breakfast in bed, and lots of “grown up time” to driving coffee together in the morning, trying not to do that thing your partner hates, and giving compliments. (Like all things on APW, it is excellent. You can check the post out here.)
I wanted to participate, but all I could think of was that I will sometimes give Stephen my last piece of gum even though I’ve been “saving” it. While that is true, it kind of makes me look like a gum-loving a-hole, which maybe I am. (I need my gum!)
Then came Sunday night. I returned home from a long day at work to see -
Stephen had spent his entire day off working on the house. He hung up all our pictures, art, and diplomas. He put together our floating shelf, which had sadly been living in a box since we bought it last year. (We couldn’t hang it up in Germany because the walls were no bueno for hanging things that you wanted to actually stay on the wall.) This required a trip to Home Depot and some pretty fancy handiwork to get it up on the wall by himself.
It makes the house feel so cozy and homey and finished! Instead of frames leaning up against the walls where we want to hang them or a shelf in a box, we have art work and shelving that we can actually shelve things on!
But wait! There’s more! May I present the piece de resistance:
Stephen organized the Tupperware. I could melt.
This is my idea of love. Doing something for your partner just because. Not expecting anything in return. Giving up your day off to get chores done. Working nonstop to surprise your partner. Maybe sharing your last piece of gum.
I’ve been the very lucky recipient of a Grand Romantic Gesture (if a surprise trip to New York City to see Phantom of the Opera isn’t grand and romantic, I don’t know what is), but that isn’t everyday love. Our lives (and our wallets!) aren’t conducive to that. And I really don’t need all that. I just want someone who will cuddle with me at the end of the night and if they happen to organize the Tupperware, that’s even better. I’d say that I hit the jackpot.
What does love look like to you? Grand Romantic Gestures or organized Tupperware? What’s something little you or your lovey has done lately? It’s ok to gush!